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Episodes
Friday Oct 26, 2018
Friday Oct 26, 2018
About the Episode This episode is a must-listen for athletes and parents of athletes. Drake dives into his experiences in high school and college being the BMOC (big man on campus), how the confidence he gained through being a praised athlete translated into his life after competition, and what he's learned about being more reflective in his life. He also explores how he intends to apply the lessons he's learned from his own life so he can be a dad who doesn't go crazy when his kids play sports.
About Drake Drake Fages is an innovative mentor who has a real gift for professional coaching and motivation. Through his own experience as an All-American and Gold Glove 3rd baseman, experience of devastating injuries, and the struggle to find relevance and meaning outside of sports he has found a unique way to help students, young professionals, and athletes in transition. Today, he dedicates himself to guiding young people by serving as Director and Lead Guide for YouSchool Athletics. Drake received a bachelor’s degree in Sociology and a minor in Religion from Biola University. Drake has been described as “Funny, engaging, and extremely understanding in conversation”. Connect with him on LinkedIn or email.
Sunday Oct 21, 2018
Sunday Oct 21, 2018
This month we're diving into personal profile stories of fascinating people in the YouSchool world, and in this episode, you'll get to learn a lot about Joe Lara's life and his transition from Navy Special Operations to the non-profit sector.
Sunday Oct 14, 2018
Sunday Oct 14, 2018
This month at the YouSchool we’re exploring the theme: THE EXPERIENCE OF YOU. We’re curious about what it’s like to be your unique self, an experience that no one else can share or genuinely understand but which makes up who you are in this world.
We want to encourage people to reflect on the experience they have in life, to grow more deeply in awareness of what it’s like to be alive in their skin, their personality, their family, their memories, their reactions, and their story. The punchline is to encourage people to embrace the unique way they operate and experience the world and to experience more peace and joy in their lives. We want to guide people to recognize the unique perspective and gift they have to bring to this world the more they choose to embrace their true identity.
A few questions to get you started on the journey:
— What makes me different or distinct from my siblings?
— What particular ways do I respond to daily challenges, stress, or problems?
— What do I find to be truly good, beautiful, or wonderful?
— What tapes play in my head as I go through the day?
— What recurring phrases do I use to express my surprise to the world?
Pay attention this week as you go to work, run errands, engage with friends or neighbors, and have a few quiet moments in traffic or before you drift off to sleep. What’s unique about who you are and how you operate?
Friday Oct 12, 2018
Friday Oct 12, 2018
The most critical project a parent undertakes is the raising of kids to become healthy, happy, and wise. In this short episode, we discuss a crucial step for parents to help their kids expand boundaries and responsibly earn more freedom in life. Download this accompanying worksheet, and feel free to share this episode or contact us (info@theyouschool.com) to explore hosting workshops for your school or organization.
Friday Oct 05, 2018
Friday Oct 05, 2018
Ryan graduated with college with a unique idea that most people told him would never work: to build a career out of being an intentional, engaged friend to as many people as he could. With uncommon sense tips and whimsy, Ryan shares his invaluable wisdom from his life experiences of collecting meaningful friendships and the power that comes from a real network of support.
Ryan's two book recommendations:
Harvey MacKay's Dig Your Well Before Your Thirsty
Keith Ferrazi's Never Eat Alone
Connect with Ryan, the man, the myth, and the legend, on LinkedIn.
Friday Sep 28, 2018
Friday Sep 28, 2018
In this episode, buckle up for candor. JJ shares the powerful story of his transition from the marines to civilian life, discussing his experience with combat, PTSD, his other than honorable discharge, his friend's death from suicide, and struggles with alcohol. JJ now helps lead the Clay Hunt Fellowship program for Team Rubicon USA.
JJ's advice for veteran transition:
1. Reach out to people in your unit
2. Find a local veteran group
3. Build a new tribe for yourself with people you can trust
READ: I'm Living With PTSD But Will Not Be Defined By It
WATCH: JJ's story
Sunday Sep 23, 2018
Sunday Sep 23, 2018
Show Notes // 3 Critical Aspects of Healthy Friendships:
1) A commitment to a rhythm of connection: get-togethers, coffees, golf, meals, etc
2) Honesty as a foundation for intimacy - no honesty = no intimacy, and for men, shared vulnerability and weakness is especially hard so being honest in these areas is important. This also includes honesty about what’s hard in the relationships. So, honesty about the internal life, honesty about weakness, honesty about issues happening in the relationship.
3) Attunement/support/listening well - we have to learn how to show up AND how to receive the other person's inner life and struggles in a way that’s helpful!
About Charlie Ruce
As a therapist, I walk with individual men, women, and couples through these seasons of life that require guidance, clarity, healing, and a process to move from feeling stuck to feeling free and more alive and whole. If you have had therapy in the past but feel like you need to take another step, or you have been journeying inward on your own for a while now but know its time to seek the help of someone else, I would be happy to work with you to move through this season and into the next one. I also have extensive experience working with those in recovery from sexual addiction. If you have been in recovery for a while but need to take another step of healing and growth, I would be happy to journey with you."
Charlie specializes in:
- Those with previous therapy experience looking to take the next step
- Couple's struggling to connect deeply
- Trauma/Feeling like life should be "more" than it is
- Recovery from sexual addiction
Contact Charlie
619-272-6485 ext. 105
charlie@soulcarehouse.com
Saturday Sep 15, 2018
Saturday Sep 15, 2018
This episode is pure gold if you're someone who values relationships and wants to grow better ones. We talk a lot about how parents, teachers, and youth workers can encourage their students to find and build authentic friendships.
About Melissa:
I am passionate about supporting people facing the messiness of life — its difficulties and its joys — with actionable tools and approaches that can provide sustained change. It is inspiring providing space so people can take risks and bravely learn to respect their whole story — on their own terms. Working with clients in a therapeutic setting is a great privilege. I know first hand that the healing journey can be uncomfortable. Facing fears and reflecting inward is tough work. Yet, this is where people can discover the pathway to freedom by discovering their own reserves of courage.
I help teens and women struggling with disordered eating, trauma and distressing life events, anxiety, grief, life adjustments, identity issues, and shame. Together we can define your own goals for change.
Along with my own journey through therapy, faith is another avenue that has brought me great freedom. I enjoy integrating evidenced-based clinical approaches with faith for those who value a mind, body and soul approach.
Education:
MA, Marriage and Family Therapy — Bethel Seminary San Diego
BA, Psychology — San Diego State University
Specialized Training:
- Certified Eating Disorder Specialist (CEDS) (Certification in progress)
- EMDR Trained Therapist — Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: a specialized therapeutic approach that can help alleviate the effects of traumatic and distressing life events such as abuse and shame.
- Grief and Loss — Bereavement counselor working with terminally ill clients and their families in both pre and post bereavement
Affiliations:
California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
Like many native San Diegans, I enjoy being outside as much as possible, particularly in water. I also love sporting events, concerts, dancing, and experimenting with art and writing. Growing up with 3 sisters inspired my love for women’s issues, humor, and deep authentic relationships.
Call Melissa at 619.819.0283 ext 5
Friday Sep 07, 2018
Friday Sep 07, 2018
To be honest, this is the conversation where I couldn't stop taking notes! Tracey's a longtime friend and former colleague who now has a deep passion for helping people discover and activate their strengths. Here's a recap of the episode that I'm sure you'll want to listen to a couple times and share with friends:
Two great questions for listeners to reflect on their own StrengthsFinder 2.0 results:
- Where does that strength come alive in you?
- What's a challenge you have where you can apply your strength?
For Parents (or coaches, teachers, youth workers)-- top five clues to discover your kid's talents:
- Rapid learning: what subjects or topics do you see your kids devour information?
- Motivation and natural curiosity: what are your kids naturally motivated to learn or do more of?
- Flow: what activities do you notice them in 'the zone'?
- Satisfaction: when do you hear them especially satisfied by an activity?
- Glimpses of excellence: what do you notice them being remarkably talented at?
Tracey mentioned a book she's reading by James Emery White called Meet Generation Z.
Buy the StrengthsFinder 2.0 Book & Assessment for you or someone you like a lot.
Connect with Tracey on LinkedIn-- she's a licensed and talented coach for 1:1 coaching, small groups or teams
Friday Aug 31, 2018
Friday Aug 31, 2018
Research has proven that if your work directly affects the lives or wellbeing of others, you will enjoy your work more. Scott shares two important insights that can help you find more meaning in the work that you're doing, whether you're a student, a parent, an employee, or an athlete.